Andrew Guy

We speak to our NSW #YourChair winner Andrew Guy about his journey as a trans person #TheProjectTV

Posted by The Project on Monday, September 7, 2015

Sunday, December 13, 2015

8 Reasons To Date a Trans Guy

The original link below is blocked in some countries apparently?! so see below for interest if so:

Courtesy of Basil Soper ... twitter link @basil_soper

Yes, trans men are men. We aren't that different from cis men. Our trans experience does give many of us a nice perspective, though. Here is  a list that I think makes us date-worthy in comparision to cis men.
1. Bathroom Etiquette
This isn't the case for all trans men, but most of us usually leave the toilet seat down. This is either because we don't pee standing up or we've had to experience sitting down on a seat that some dude left up in the past. 
2. Our Dicks Rule
Here's the deal: We will never need Viagra. Also, if we have not had phalloplasty, size is not an issue. We can work together to get a dick that suits both of our needs. 
3. We Get How You Think
Again, this isn't the case for all trans men, and people may disagree, but I think trans guys can relate really well to women, and many trans guys I know share this opinion. Since we were socialized female, we tend to more comfortable around women than cis men. We also have to "learn" how to be men, so we pick up on a lot of male things and can relate to the pressures they feel (which they may not even be aware of because these pressures are so ingrained). So we learn a lot about gender roles and their effects on the mind.
4. We Don't Get Mad If You Take a While to Get Ready
Depending on where a trans guy is at it in his transition, it may take him a while to get ready to go out. A lot goes into presentation when passing or femming up (if that's what he's into). We won't get mad if you take a while, but you better not hog the mirror!
5. PMS
A few of us have dysphoria around the thought of menstration, and some of us still bleed monthly. If you are a woman who gets a period : Nine times out of 10 your trans man will commiserate about those cramps and help you get rid of them efficiently because he's had them. The large majority of us aren't grossed out by your blood and will celebrate your body during this time too. 
6. We Age Well
Trans men tend to look younger than we really are. Often this is attributed to testosterone use. Get yourself an eternal trophy boy. 
7. Snappy Dressers
The mass majority of trans men I know understand how to put an outfit together. I think this is partially due to having to use our presentation as a means of affirmation. I mean, we didn't spend all that time in the closet just to come out of it not knowing anything.
8. We Know Ourselves
Coming out as trans means you have to be really honest with yourself. We tend to come out and than live authentically. We know what we like, who we are, and what we want to do (for the most part) and are confident about it.

Thursday, October 1, 2015

My Meeting Request to NSW Premier (FYI)

Dear Premier,

I'd like to introduce myself briefly, my name is Andrew and I recently appeared on Ch 10's The Project TV, which if you would take a moment to review the full 3 min and 1 min abridged versions:

- (shorter version if Facebook is not available)

The purpose of my meeting is two fold; 

1. To discuss your recommendations of how you would suggest integration of my upcoming educational documentary regarding transgender issues into the school curriculum - my school Wenona in North Sydney has already had a PDHPE session about the topic (following The Project appearance) to it's Year 10 students, inclusive of a doctor, which I believe is very important and forward thinking.

2. To discuss re-considering the introduction of the Gayby Baby documentary into school time curriculum as an optional activity.

The purpose of my meeting will also to provide you with the necessary background biological studies done to show these topics actually fall under the topic of biology and reproduction and hormone integration during the process of fetal development.

It's quite misinformed to reframe this into an activist lobby political issue and compare it with religious or radical fundamentalist groups. It has done significant damage to school communities throughout NSW and needs to be rectified at the earliest convenience. I'd also be happy to provide you with some third party Counsellor reports outlining this.

I look forward to a time to discuss this with you, and would be very open to it being a joint meeting with the Minister of Education.

Thank you for your time and consideration,

Andrew Guy

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Two relevant trans points of view I've recently come by in forums that I find interesting

1. The Need For Gender Spectrum Awareness

Sydney University's Trans Rally Mantra  -- Copyright Andrea Zephyr

- you have a visible chest
- you have long hair
- you wear dresses
- you wear makeup
- you have a high pitched voice
- you don’t have a visible chest
- you have short hair
- you don’t shave
- you wear “masculine” clothing
- you have a low pitched voice
- you don't bind your chest
- you don't have coloured hair
- you use he or she as your pronouns.
- you don't mix and max or "genderfuck" your clothes
- you don't understand how you want to present in society


2. The Need For Surgery

When I went to my consult "to see my surgeon" in January and knew I would be scheduling for early 2016 "a year later", I figure that the wait would get easier and easier at milestone time markers along the way. I told myself: "If I can just make it to June" or "if I can just make it to 6 months till surgery I'll feel like it's super close and I'll have some relief." The truth is, the closer it gets the slower time feels like it's moving. This wait is dreadful. I feel simultaneously grateful that it's "just around the corner" and also it's almost physically painful waiting for it to happen. My brain is so much already in a "post-op state of awareness" that each day feels brutally tedious waiting for this. There have been moments, very brief moments where I feel like it's already there. The sensation is elating and utterly comfortable and devastating all at once as I'm snapped back into the awareness that I still have another 4.5 months to wait. A medically induced coma would be the only thing that would help at this point... Trying to stay present - but damn, it's hard.

Wednesday, September 9, 2015

The Most Important Messages Of All! This is my version of Ch 10's The Project TV

Hi Andrew, thanks for accepting my friend request, we obviously don't know each other, I am a single mother of a son who will be 25 in a couple of weeks. The other night when I was watching you on The Project and you were telling your story about being a transgender my son said "that's what I am", at first I wasn't sure if he was joking and just said 'I've always wanted a daughter" and the I looked at him (he was sitting behind me) I could see he was serious. I have known for many years that he was keeping something from me, he suffers with depression and sometimes anger issues, doesn't have a job or for that matter much of a life outside the house. I tried to get him to talk to me, he was crying and said he was scared, I told him I love him and would support him through this journey, I told him that he obviously needs to talk to someone but I really don't know where to start. 

Is there any guidance you could give me to enable me to get him to the right people to help him.

AND of course the answer is yes!

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