Andrew Guy

We speak to our NSW #YourChair winner Andrew Guy about his journey as a trans person #TheProjectTV

Posted by The Project on Monday, September 7, 2015

Sunday, December 13, 2015

8 Reasons To Date a Trans Guy

The original link below is blocked in some countries apparently?! so see below for interest if so:

Courtesy of Basil Soper ... twitter link @basil_soper

Yes, trans men are men. We aren't that different from cis men. Our trans experience does give many of us a nice perspective, though. Here is  a list that I think makes us date-worthy in comparision to cis men.
1. Bathroom Etiquette
This isn't the case for all trans men, but most of us usually leave the toilet seat down. This is either because we don't pee standing up or we've had to experience sitting down on a seat that some dude left up in the past. 
2. Our Dicks Rule
Here's the deal: We will never need Viagra. Also, if we have not had phalloplasty, size is not an issue. We can work together to get a dick that suits both of our needs. 
3. We Get How You Think
Again, this isn't the case for all trans men, and people may disagree, but I think trans guys can relate really well to women, and many trans guys I know share this opinion. Since we were socialized female, we tend to more comfortable around women than cis men. We also have to "learn" how to be men, so we pick up on a lot of male things and can relate to the pressures they feel (which they may not even be aware of because these pressures are so ingrained). So we learn a lot about gender roles and their effects on the mind.
4. We Don't Get Mad If You Take a While to Get Ready
Depending on where a trans guy is at it in his transition, it may take him a while to get ready to go out. A lot goes into presentation when passing or femming up (if that's what he's into). We won't get mad if you take a while, but you better not hog the mirror!
5. PMS
A few of us have dysphoria around the thought of menstration, and some of us still bleed monthly. If you are a woman who gets a period : Nine times out of 10 your trans man will commiserate about those cramps and help you get rid of them efficiently because he's had them. The large majority of us aren't grossed out by your blood and will celebrate your body during this time too. 
6. We Age Well
Trans men tend to look younger than we really are. Often this is attributed to testosterone use. Get yourself an eternal trophy boy. 
7. Snappy Dressers
The mass majority of trans men I know understand how to put an outfit together. I think this is partially due to having to use our presentation as a means of affirmation. I mean, we didn't spend all that time in the closet just to come out of it not knowing anything.
8. We Know Ourselves
Coming out as trans means you have to be really honest with yourself. We tend to come out and than live authentically. We know what we like, who we are, and what we want to do (for the most part) and are confident about it.

Thursday, October 1, 2015

My Meeting Request to NSW Premier (FYI)

Dear Premier,

I'd like to introduce myself briefly, my name is Andrew and I recently appeared on Ch 10's The Project TV, which if you would take a moment to review the full 3 min and 1 min abridged versions:

- (shorter version if Facebook is not available)

The purpose of my meeting is two fold; 

1. To discuss your recommendations of how you would suggest integration of my upcoming educational documentary regarding transgender issues into the school curriculum - my school Wenona in North Sydney has already had a PDHPE session about the topic (following The Project appearance) to it's Year 10 students, inclusive of a doctor, which I believe is very important and forward thinking.

2. To discuss re-considering the introduction of the Gayby Baby documentary into school time curriculum as an optional activity.

The purpose of my meeting will also to provide you with the necessary background biological studies done to show these topics actually fall under the topic of biology and reproduction and hormone integration during the process of fetal development.

It's quite misinformed to reframe this into an activist lobby political issue and compare it with religious or radical fundamentalist groups. It has done significant damage to school communities throughout NSW and needs to be rectified at the earliest convenience. I'd also be happy to provide you with some third party Counsellor reports outlining this.

I look forward to a time to discuss this with you, and would be very open to it being a joint meeting with the Minister of Education.

Thank you for your time and consideration,

Andrew Guy

Saturday, September 19, 2015

Two relevant trans points of view I've recently come by in forums that I find interesting

1. The Need For Gender Spectrum Awareness

Sydney University's Trans Rally Mantra  -- Copyright Andrea Zephyr

- you have a visible chest
- you have long hair
- you wear dresses
- you wear makeup
- you have a high pitched voice
- you don’t have a visible chest
- you have short hair
- you don’t shave
- you wear “masculine” clothing
- you have a low pitched voice
- you don't bind your chest
- you don't have coloured hair
- you use he or she as your pronouns.
- you don't mix and max or "genderfuck" your clothes
- you don't understand how you want to present in society


2. The Need For Surgery

When I went to my consult "to see my surgeon" in January and knew I would be scheduling for early 2016 "a year later", I figure that the wait would get easier and easier at milestone time markers along the way. I told myself: "If I can just make it to June" or "if I can just make it to 6 months till surgery I'll feel like it's super close and I'll have some relief." The truth is, the closer it gets the slower time feels like it's moving. This wait is dreadful. I feel simultaneously grateful that it's "just around the corner" and also it's almost physically painful waiting for it to happen. My brain is so much already in a "post-op state of awareness" that each day feels brutally tedious waiting for this. There have been moments, very brief moments where I feel like it's already there. The sensation is elating and utterly comfortable and devastating all at once as I'm snapped back into the awareness that I still have another 4.5 months to wait. A medically induced coma would be the only thing that would help at this point... Trying to stay present - but damn, it's hard.

Wednesday, September 9, 2015

The Most Important Messages Of All! This is my version of Ch 10's The Project TV

Hi Andrew, thanks for accepting my friend request, we obviously don't know each other, I am a single mother of a son who will be 25 in a couple of weeks. The other night when I was watching you on The Project and you were telling your story about being a transgender my son said "that's what I am", at first I wasn't sure if he was joking and just said 'I've always wanted a daughter" and the I looked at him (he was sitting behind me) I could see he was serious. I have known for many years that he was keeping something from me, he suffers with depression and sometimes anger issues, doesn't have a job or for that matter much of a life outside the house. I tried to get him to talk to me, he was crying and said he was scared, I told him I love him and would support him through this journey, I told him that he obviously needs to talk to someone but I really don't know where to start. 

Is there any guidance you could give me to enable me to get him to the right people to help him.

AND of course the answer is yes!

Wednesday, September 2, 2015

Women's Weekly

Women's Weekly recently retold the story from an article a few years back! 

Feel free to click here to enjoy the read. 

Love these ladies for their care and interest xx

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Friday, July 31, 2015

My Warrior Women

Okay so bit of an update on this topic as I personally find it to be quite a funny topic in my world ... unfortunately and still for now I keep the majority of it private as at the end of the day as much as the world is 'accepting' of someone like me, I still very much feel the need to protect anyone close to me based on any stigma / society judgement they'd face by 'god forbid' being near to me or shockingly ... even closer !! gah! ;-)

Anyway so with that in mind, I have to bring in one of my favourite quantum physicist quotes here ... that old ball and chain of a one that's been around forever that you may have experienced for better or worse ... the "nothing ever disappears it just changes form" one ... usually I always get reminded of this one when I'm happy someone I personally find annoying has finally left my world, only for another one to show up with similar traits and it's like OMG truly?! 

But not that I find this case with 'my' women of course! people I think do wonder, wow how does someone like him find someone to be with ? ... rest assured I'm all good, irrespective of whether I have a 'someone' around me or not at any particular time, I do LOVE my me time more and more and more ... I just think bachelor life is for me sometimes; you know freedom, quiet time, wake up when I want to, TV remote mine, food choice mine ... just why would you ever go back I think somedays (shhh! I didn't really just say that ... swear!)

But yeah the physics quote, I just tend to find I always seem to come into contact at whatever point with some strong powerful female force of an energy that commands presence (like cue from the wings) at EXACTLY the right time for what I need; it's quite uncanny ... sometimes its sexual, sometimes it's not and you know that's all good, it is what it is ... I've been told before I have this knack with connections (I don't say that arrogantly as I've never said that nor do I feel that way but others do ... some charisma or something ... I don't get it as to me I'm just this weird looking guy thing that's sometimes kinda okay looking depending on if I can get hair product right at the time (a touch and go issue).

So my current conclusion on all this is that I just think the world is full of tribes, I do! Even today, just disguised in a society that operates and dresses and appears the way it does, huge tribes, loads and when we're lonely it's because we're missing our tribe. 

My tribe people, as I say, tend to me these grand strong female presences that arrive at EXACTLY the right moment, always to my relief to help with some issue I'm struggling with (whether it be physically, emotionally, legally, mentally, artistically or employmently) and thank god really! It's always necessary!  

I was in an physical acting workshop a few years ago getting a body correction attended to and once the correction was done her comment was "oh my goodness look at your body, you hold the world on your chest, finally one of my people, great to have you hear" ... I wasn't quite sure what she meant at the time but I do now ... I think we really all do have our people that we are here for and we instinctively gravitate toward one another and generally you recognise this by those you feel repelled by ... as in they ain't your people.

The best way I can highlight this is with a current recent interaction I've had. Not long ago, I bumped into a 'female kind' in a theatre foyer and it was only via retreating to Facebook the next day did we have a proper interaction (love social media) "so hi it's been forever but did I see you at the XYZ yesterday" ... "yes I was wondering if that was you" ... so we hit it off again from there after maybe 10 years or so, not that we were even that close back then. 

Safe to say there's been a BIG reason for that connection that's lead onto a LOT of necessary positive things since that I can't yet speak of but hope to in another few years. And only this past week did this really hit home as we were sitting in a very nice inner Sydney swish proper corporate restaurant discussing "professional matters" and all of a sudden the conversation shifted to a place I don't usually talk about casually over dinner and that was to our spiritual beliefs and practises. So anyway it turns out we've both privately undertaken our own spiritual modality practises and training (loose term) over the past few years but had completely similar experiences ... in summary 'gotten a lot out of it, fought with the leaders constantly, and have had these absolutely weird random moments'. For her, the respective guru dedicated their practise in one of her retreats, started to literally move out of the picture in the Shrine room toward her. 

To someone like me I find this absolutely HYSTERICAL! To my comment "yes XYZ-ji was probably trying to leave the room too" (stop it Andy!) but to the point, people come to these retreats time after time thirsting for some big spiritual awakening, and this gorgeous soul walks in and has this great experience first time much to the anxiety of a lot of other longer term delegates ! boom! in that moment I was like YES this is definitely one of my tribe! And then we went back to our important corporate human rights matters!  

SO my point being, if you're out there and you're lonely, just keep looking for your TRIBE, I promise they're out there, it's all divinely worked out and I'm sure we're all just finding each other again from ancient Cleopatra or Joan of Arc kinda times! I think I must have been some really bad man that burnt witches at the stake to have this life swear to god but whatever! I keep walking so just do the same, stay strong and always be true to yourself with the people you keep company with !!

Dedicated to all my 'warrior women' ;-) ... you know who you are! muah! 


Saturday, July 25, 2015

Puberty Blockers

I've been deliberating over this post now for a while alongside giving it a lot of thought. It's a topic I have to say I've generally dodged or diverted answering journalist questions because I've not wanted to comment; firstly I'm not a doctor, but nor do I have any personal experience to the topic (which is where I prefer to write from). 

To the point though, puberty blockers and hormone replacement in transgender children / teenagers ... yep a biggie! Firstly yep I'm fully aware there would be a lot of professionals out there with different and greater insight to mine and as always I welcome comments. That said I am also going to give my thoughts now that I've had a little experience and consulted a few different medical opinions over the past few weeks. 

In summary the topic intimidates me, mainly from the point of view of transitioning myself as a fairly OTT health conscious adult and I can assure you to get through all the elements of my transition; particularly the physical, mental and surgical elements (7 surgeries in 3.5 years) I've needed to call on and use EVERY resource (internal and external) available to me and still I'd say I'm not yet back to a '100%' I used to be ... and you think the Tour De France in intense - truly!! Whether I'll ever get back to that past 100% I've given up wondering and instead just see what level of health each day brings ... 

SO that being said, a question that's always stuck with me is that it's all very well and good to be an adult celebrity (or not) transgender individual who confidently walks through such a massive physical and emotional and mental enduring process but WTF is that going to be like for a child who adamantly identifies as this so early in this day in age (from living this I'll never doubt them for one millisecond - it's real and the truth as if you are this you just know, no further explanation required really) ... but is medical progression also problematic in development?

As in it's a pretty major thing to experience an external substance injected into the body designed to halt puberty progress, "delay it" if you will whilst the teen makes sure (at age 16) they definitely want to medically transition (as in that's currently the correct standard practise from the medical practitioners perspective and the Government legality ... hmmm?!?) So at 16 you can begin hormone replacement or put another way; start your puberty experience ... completely over riding a time of body change where A LOAD of development is happening, huge amounts, everywhere! 

With that said, having recently accompanied a young friend of mine on his first visit to a paediatric endocrinologist (thank god they exist!) I'm a little more settled and I still have questions. The point here I think is that early treatment is truly a 'new-ish' thing, and there aren't a load of medical studies yet done to refer to about the affects of all of this, if any! 

But from researching and questioning doctors the way I like to (they love me deep down I'm sure, truly ;)) I can see that it does work and is pretty much okay. The main issue being that the intervention does sway a little from the 'normal range' puberty onset time period so the teen can allude the appearance of looking a different age to their peers as their puberty progresses differently.

There are a few things though that get me questioning what the blocker is actually targeting. There are a few different substances used, the main ones I can see work by suppressing signals from the pituitary gland (used similarly in some cancer treatments) which stops the hormone regulation signals to the ovaries or testes respectively (not just the sex organs directly - which I ignorantly thought was the case). As I say here though, I'm not a doctor, the specialists looking after this process are doing very well and I applaud their abilities to step in and offer this to trans kids as it is needed. 

I am though just questioning questions a little as is shown in these diagrams ... 

The pituitary gland does affect other things as well sex organ hormone production and does suppressing this affect these other developmental areas as well; i.e the adrenal ACTH, thyroid TSH, bone density measures, kidney ADH as well as the sex organ hormone release?

Specialists have commented that bone density mass development catches up within a few years of hormone replacement so it's of no consequence to long term to susceptibility of conditions like osteoporosis. The other elements I've not had comments to yet but I hope to in time and more so I would love to see more medical research reports done to the topic ...  

Which brings me to my question has enough research been done and is this actually physically and physiologically healthy, particularly the element of restricting hormones until the age of 16 when most other kids start their puberty earlier, all for the sake of 'what if they change their mind?'. I'm not convinced, they aren't going to change their mind - truly, this is medical practitioner protection talking! But who knows maybe the odd one or two will, I'm looking forward to seeing that though and being proven wrong. 

Blockers generally start around 10-12 once you get through any legal issues with that -- bless Human Rights Commissions for their work to this point as even this isn't that simple depending on what country you're in. But back to the point the age is dependent on their Tanner stage as to not affect their height growth too much - google that point though, tis another topic that isn't for this post. My personal issue is that 10-16 is a lot of years to be suppressing the above functions (in my opinion as an alternative health practitioner). 

I believe hormone replacement should be available from 14 (as agreed by a child transgender child specialist I read from recently) especially if the teenager is requesting it. They are old enough and I think it is healthier. I do definitely think the legal restriction of access to hormone replacement at 16 should be challenged by medical practitioners and parents respectively. It's too late in my opinion particularly if a trans individual choices later in life to go ahead with the genital realignment surgeries ... they are going to want to be as healthy as humanly possible to avoid any of the (up to 40%) surgical complication rates (more joys to look forward to, truly!). I hope in time with doctor / medical advancements these reduce too, I'm confident they will as they work every day to do so.

In summary with this said mentioned, do I think a trans identified child (even with the new frontier that this is) be denied this process and have to grow into adult-hood before beginning any sort of medical transition -- absolutely not. It's likely they'll self harm themselves before that time, and THAT you will always have my word on. 

There is a duty of care though I believe to more acutely watch body functions during this time; particularly mood, metabolism, thyroid function and bone density development etc etc. It it were my child I would be onto monitoring all of this constantly (without trying to make them a lab rat) and be the normal pain in the butt patient / civilian I always strive to be ;)

Cheers as always for reading! 

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