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Yes, trans men are men. We aren't that different from cis men. Our trans experience does give many of us a nice perspective, though. Here is a list that I think makes us date-worthy in comparision to cis men.
1. Bathroom Etiquette
This isn't the case for all trans men, but most of us usually leave the toilet seat down. This is either because we don't pee standing up or we've had to experience sitting down on a seat that some dude left up in the past.
2. Our Dicks Rule
Here's the deal: We will never need Viagra. Also, if we have not had phalloplasty, size is not an issue. We can work together to get a dick that suits both of our needs.
3. We Get How You Think
Again, this isn't the case for all trans men, and people may disagree, but I think trans guys can relate really well to women, and many trans guys I know share this opinion. Since we were socialized female, we tend to more comfortable around women than cis men. We also have to "learn" how to be men, so we pick up on a lot of male things and can relate to the pressures they feel (which they may not even be aware of because these pressures are so ingrained). So we learn a lot about gender roles and their effects on the mind.
4. We Don't Get Mad If You Take a While to Get Ready
Depending on where a trans guy is at it in his transition, it may take him a while to get ready to go out. A lot goes into presentation when passing or femming up (if that's what he's into). We won't get mad if you take a while, but you better not hog the mirror!
5. PMS
A few of us have dysphoria around the thought of menstration, and some of us still bleed monthly. If you are a woman who gets a period : Nine times out of 10 your trans man will commiserate about those cramps and help you get rid of them efficiently because he's had them. The large majority of us aren't grossed out by your blood and will celebrate your body during this time too.
6. We Age Well
Trans men tend to look younger than we really are. Often this is attributed to testosterone use. Get yourself an eternal trophy boy.
7. Snappy Dressers
The mass majority of trans men I know understand how to put an outfit together. I think this is partially due to having to use our presentation as a means of affirmation. I mean, we didn't spend all that time in the closet just to come out of it not knowing anything.
8. We Know Ourselves
Coming out as trans means you have to be really honest with yourself. We tend to come out and than live authentically. We know what we like, who we are, and what we want to do (for the most part) and are confident about it.
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